Pia Mellody has a great saying: “Hug your demons or they’re going to bite you in the ass.” This is true for your gut as well.
It seems men are much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa, and men are also more liable than women to think their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them.By contrast, females in general were not attracted to their male friends and believed this lack of attraction was mutual.Have you ever noticed how often people ignore their gut?• Tony’s girlfriend tells him she’s going to leave him if he doesn’t marry her. He quickly feels bad for having that thought and stuffs it down.• Joan finds out her husband has been talking on sex chat rooms.So, consequently, men consistently the level of attraction their male friends felt.
This sounds reminiscent of the "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" cliché, but it is very much a reality; we are wired differently and seek different things in our relationships.
When I hear someone referring to another person as his or her best friend, it indicates a deep level of intimacy and implies platonic attraction to this person above all others.
The platonic qualification is only applicable in instances when said best friend also happens to be someone with whom you couldn't possibly want to have sex.
Facing the issue up front is the best move you can make for your relationships—at any stage.
CHALLENGE: Is there something your gut has been trying to tell you?
I’m not suggesting men and women cannot be friends in any form.